Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari


Genre: Social Psychology

Page Count: 238

Publication Date: 2015

Summary: The author, a comedian, goes out with a girl and they seem to hit it off.  A week or so goes by and he texts her to see if she wants to hang out again but she never responds. He begins to wonder… Did she get my message? Did she not like me? Did she get hit by a bus? He’s unsure of how to proceed (text again?) and decides to do some research on the etiquette requirements of modern relationships.  He finds no information on the topic so decides to do the research himself, along with sociologists, psychologists, and other experts on human behavior. The result is this book, which explores how romance has changed over the last few decades – mostly because of technology.  Topics covered include texting, online dating and dating trends around the world, among other things.

Recommended: Yes.  If you’ve ever been in a serious relationship, you got to that point somehow.  This book explores that how.  The information is backed up with actual data from qualitative social science research.

If You’re Offended… You may want to skip this one.  For starters, the author swears like a sailor.  I counted 28 instances of the F-bomb and 35 instances of “shit” in some form – and that doesn’t include all of the other words he uses. There are also numerous references to casual sex, masturbation, prostitution, sex toys, etc.

Noteworthy Excerpts: “I wanted to see Tanya again and was faced with a simple conundrum that plagues us all: How and when do I communicate next? Do I call? Do I text? Do I send a Facebook message? Do I send up a smoke signal? How does one do that?” “Today we’ve become far more accepting of alternative lifestyles, and people move in and out of different situations: single with roommates, single and solo, single with partner, married, divorced, divorced and living with an iguana, remarried with iguana, then divorced with seven iguanas because your iguana obsession ruined your relationship, and, finally single with six iguanas (Arturo was sadly run over by an ice cream truck).”